Cara Dawn (Malmberg) Kilman

  • Born: October 14, 1952
  • Died: October 30, 2018
  • Location: Loudon, New Hampshire

Cremation Society of New Hampshire

172 King St.
Boscawen , NH 03303
Tel. (603) 796-2528

Tribute & Message From The Family

Beloved wife, mother, and grandmother

Message From The Family

Thank you for your support during this difficult time. Feel free to add your memories and photos as a tribute to Cara.

On Tuesday, October 30th, 2018, Cara Dawn (Malmberg) Kilman, loving wife and mother from Loudon, NH, passed away at age 66.

Born on October 14th, 1952, in Iowa City, IA to Zola Mae Chelf and Lawrence Harold Malmberg, Cara grew up on a farm in Lone Tree, IA until 1960 when her family moved to Iowa City. Cara received a Bachelor of Arts from the College of Education at University of Iowa in 1974. She worked as a Spanish teacher and did administrative work for Iowa Beef Processors until meeting her husband through a church connection. Cara married Massachusetts native, Ernest Edward Kilman, Jr., on January 1, 1983. Together they built a new life in New Hampshire and raised two daughters. In addition to caring for her family, Cara worked for Tupperware then JoAnn Fabrics where she imparted her love for sewing and creating for 20 years.

Throughout her life, Cara was a loyal woman of faith and community formed from deep Midwestern roots valuing hospitality, integrity, and humility. She appreciated family history and tradition. Cara offered care and wisdom to her marriage, found great joy in her roles of mother and grandmother, and always enjoyed a good chat with a friend. She was creative, lacking in pretense, and had a strong work ethic. Cara demonstrated her love for others through encouraging her daughters' passions and endeavors, making countless meals, jams, and desserts from scratch, constructing dresses and clothes for her girls, and giving time to assist church ministry behind the scenes. She was a marvelous baker, keeping recipes alive from her mother and giving gifts for celebrations and holidays, including creating gorgeous wedding cakes for friends. Cara also had a deep love for music, both performing, listening, and teaching. She sang in the Concord Chorale, directed the Concord Christian School High School choir, judged choir competitions, performed in a hand bell choir, and served as church pianist. Cara loved God, her family, and her church. She will be greatly missed.

Cara was preceded in death by her father, Lawrence, mother, Zola, and older sisters, Sandra Balke and Joyce Tardiff. She is survived by her husband Ernest, daughters Rebekah and Lydia, and granddaughter, Iola, as well as many nieces and nephews residing in the Midwest.

A memorial service will be held Saturday, November 10th at Faith Community Bible Church, 334 North Village Rd, Loudon, NH 03307. The family will receive visitors at 10:30 a.m. and services will begin at 11:00 a.m. followed by a reception at the church. Cara will be laid to rest in Loudon Ridge Cemetery at a private burial.

The family wishes to thank Faith Community Bible Church along with friends and family for their continuous prayers, love, and support.


Condolence & Memory Journal

Thank you for all your prayers and kind words at this time. I am very thankful to Jesus for the 35 years of marriage to Cara. She was a great blessing to me. I know she is with Jesus now.

Posted by Ernie Kilman - Loudon, NH - Spouse   January 18, 2019

Your family was always so welcoming when the kids were growing up. I am truly sorry for your lost.

Posted by Karen and bob Mossman - Loudon, NH - Family Friend   November 18, 2018

I have fond memories of taking choir my junior and senior year at CCA. Sure I didn't know what I was doing but I certainly remember some funny moments of Mrs. Kilman attempting to keep our attention in choir. Thanks Mrs. Kilman for serving God well.

Posted by Ryan Shaughnessy - Omaha, NE - Student   November 16, 2018

Cara was a lovely, sweet person. She will be missed so much. RIP Cara

Posted by Wayne & Kathy Martin - Mesa, AZ - Family Friend   November 09, 2018

I was saddened reading Cara's passing. Our paths have crossed so many times, Church, Tupperware, Joannes, Market Basket and the list goes on, Cara's family was her life. Everytime we met she would always give me an update on her daughters and Zola. Ernie, my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

Posted by Arolyn Sargent - Concord, NH - Friend   November 08, 2018


White light during this time.

Posted by Monica MacKeachan - Concord, NH - Coworker   November 07, 2018

Thank you for sewing my purple dragon curtains and the snowflakes you crocheted for me : ) I loved all the culinary goodies you brought to work ... and there were many ! Sad I did not go to your retirement party ... and I will do my best to be there for your going away service. All my best for you and yours .... peace and love in your passing as only a priestess could bestow ... I will miss you and am thankful to have known you and call you a friend !!!
Monica MacKeachan

Posted by Monica MacKeachan - Concord, NH - Coworker   November 07, 2018

I'm so sorry to hear of Cara's passing. At Joann Fabrics, we knew if a customer had a question on a sewing project, Cara was the one to go to for the best way for the customer to finish her project. She's been missed since her retirement, and will be missed even more now.

Posted by Audrey Blodgett - Concord, NH - Coworker   November 06, 2018

The Kilman home was my Thanksgiving home several years in a row while I was on the east coast and without family. Everybody was extremely hospitable and welcoming, but especially Cara who went far out of her way to make everything nice, tasty, comfortable, beautiful, etc. She made it my east coast family. I remain grateful for everything the Kilman family offered to me over the years, and my heart goes out to you all.

Posted by Jezza Borum - Glendale, CA - Friend   November 06, 2018

Safe at last in the arms of the Savior you love and served

Posted by Ray & Linda Eible - Canterbury, NH - Friend   November 05, 2018

Victor and I are truly saddened by your loss. We will be there on Saturday, if there is anything we can do for you please let us know. Love, Wendy

Posted by Wendy Young - Loudon, NH - Friend   November 05, 2018

Will miss her in Bible study..

Posted by Phyllis Hough - Allenstown, NH - Family Friend   November 05, 2018

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